Happy Independence Day
to my American friends. Please take a moment during the barbeques, sparklers, and family fun to remember why we celebrate this day.
Jill James, author of contemporary, paranormal, and zompoc romance
Of course, we should give thanks every day for all of the people in our lives, our health, our bountiful riches, but sometimes we need a nudge, a reminder. For me, that is Thanksgiving. A day to sit with family and friends and reflect on all you have received in your life. Give thanks!
Matchbook is an Amazon program where you link your eBook and paperback book together and readers who purchase the paperback get the eBook for FREE! All my paperbacks are linked but this blog post is to mention our boxed set. Christmas at the Inn on Main Street is now in paperback and available in the Matchbook program so you can Give a Gift. Get a Gift.
Click HERE to order the paperback to give to a family member or friend and get the eBook for yourself!
Happy Holidays!! from Jill
Brainy Grandson is graduating middle school and moving on to high school. So is the nephew.
How did that happen? 🙂
Hope everyone is enjoying the annual rite of passage with their children, grandchildren, or themselves.
Jill James, romance writer and proud grandma and aunt.
Jill James, romance author
Each part of our lives is a stage; infant, childhood, school-aged, college or out on your own, married, with children, empty nest, sandwich generation and so on…
We spent this past weekend and we will spend next weekend helping my mother-in-law move from her mobile home into the sister-in-law’s house. At one point she got very sad and commented it was like she died and was looking down from above as we divided her stuff. I will admit that I got a little weepy at that. But then I told her that she wasn’t dead, she was just moving to the next stage in her life. Each stage is a big transition and probably all of them are done with some tears along the way.
You start as an infant and have to learn to do every single thing you will need to know to survive. Walking, talking, and eventually potty training. Whether you are the kid or the parent, there are some tears involved in that process to move on to childhood.
By the time you are five years old you will learn the majority of knowledge you will know. Beyond that you are just building with the blocks you already have. Past that is just harder concepts and deeper thinking. You will work your way through school this way and yes, there will be tears along the way with homework, the opposite sex, and life in general.
There will always be happy tears and sad tears as kids grow up and leave for college or out on their own. Until they are also married and/or with children they will not understand why you were so sad at this stage. They were all ready to leave and spread their wings.
Empty nest/Sandwich generation is sometimes happy, sometimes sad, but definitely a new stage in life. Sometimes the empty nest is fluid as children return to the family homestead, sometimes with spouses and children of their own. Sometimes you have to care for an elderly/invalid parent and then you get to be that wonderful definition of the Sandwich generation, caring for children and parents at the same time! I’m doing my part with this stage of life now and in the recent past and will probably continue for some time, albeit without the parent part because both of mine are gone. Now my sister-in-law will get to experience this with a teenager at home and her mother moving in with them. Yes, there will be tears. Yes, there will be highs and lows, but we will hope for many more highs. But I can guarantee there will be many more pros than there will be cons. And isn’t that usually true of most things in life?
Jill James, writer of romance
I was reminded of this yet again today. We took my husband’s grandmother (94) to an assisted living facility. His mother (75) is just not up to taking care of her 24/7 anymore. So we were all there to move her from rehab to a nice private home. We were with my mother-in-law and her grandson, our nephew, along with our daughter-in-law who lives with us. We kept sister-in-law up-to-date via cell phone. We do everything as a family. Always have.
I’m always amazed when strangers are amazed that so many of us are there for a family life event. Where are the other people’s families? Why are they not involved in a stage of their loved ones lives? We are links on a chain. For it to be strong, we all have to do our part, be involved, help.
When the day is done and an accounting is made; have you been there for your family?
Jill James, writer of romance
To all my American family and friends — Happy Thanksgiving. To my friends around the world — the end of the year is coming. A great time to reflect in your joys and sorrows, happiness and sadness, and wonders of the past year. What were your hopes and dreams for 2013? Did they happen? Can you still make them happen?
Some interruptions are bad for writers; writers block, illness or death in a family (that’s just bad period), or hard financial times.
Some interruptions are good; like your grandson visiting.
So pardon the interruption, I will be blogging again with a book review on Friday.
Jill James, author and Nana
Like Private Tim getting leave and being home for Christmas!!! The whole family hasn’t seen him since September of 2010.
It will be a very merry Christmas in our household this year.
This is not one of those posts about life getting in the way of my editing. It is more about my style of editing and how it compares to life.
I edit slowly. For the edit for my current work in progress (WIP) I’ve been highlighting and going through and getting rid of filtering words; the words that distant the reader from your character. Like thought, felt, noticed, recognized, etc. These words make you one step removed from the story. Kind of like if you distant yourself from your life and don’t notice everything going on around you. Writing is great. Getting published is great. But it is only a slice of your life.
Most men, if they are smart, leave their jobs at the workplace. As a writer, that is a little harder to do. My current story or a new story idea is always in my head. So, random thoughts or ideas will just jump out, during long rides, or at the dinner table. The inner writer is never asleep.
Next, in my editing I need to dig deeper into my characters. One, the heroine, is from the Midwest. Living in California I don’t know a lot about the Midwest except from my trips there. Thankfully, my editor is from there and gave me tremendously great ideas to make my heroine seem like she is from the Midwest. Just like in life, dig deeper, know what you are doing and why. Know your family and friends. Are they on an even keel right now, or do they need a shoulder to cry on, a leg up with troubles in their lives, or just a hug. Pay as much attention to what your family and friends are doing and why as you do your imaginary characters.
“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” – Ferris Bueller
Hey, where did December go? How did it become 11 days until Christmas? I’m about half ready for the holidays. We still have a party to go to that’s not at our house, have to finish decorating the tree, and plan what we are serving almost 20 people for Christmas Day dinner. Aaaarrrgh. LOL
Every year the holidays seem to get here faster and faster. Every year they seem to be over in a flash. Every year it seems to happen sooner and sooner.
I love Christmas, but the build-up is so intense, the aftermath is so anti-climatic. Kind of like lots of things in life. With more and more technology I don’t think life is going to slow down anytime soon. So buckle up and enjoy the ride.
With my first book being released in February I’m actually seeing December as the slow month before I gear up for promoting Tempting Adam, getting my name out there, and writing more stories.
What are you gearing up for in the New Year? What are you most looking forward to during the holidays?
My sister-in-law and mother-in-law do most of the cooking. Our house has Christmas Day dinner. So we take sodas, pies (Costco), and chips and dips. I enjoy the time of sitting in the kitchen, the guys in with the tv and football, and talking about the year just past and the one coming up. How much the boys have grown and what does everyone want for Christmas.
The rest of my family is at Ft. Hood Texas (son, Pvt. Tim) and San Diego (brother, sister-in-law, niece, and soon to be born nephew) That is it. It is me and husband’s family for Thanksgiving. We don’t even have grandson and daughter this year, they will be in Disneyland.
I think it will be a quiet year this Thanksgiving. Our nephew the only child and a few less people, and thinking about those not there and those not here anymore.
I am thankful for all I have, all the ones I love, and all those who have touched my life.
Today is my wedding anniversary. #22. Ah, where did the years go? I can still picture my wedding day. Seems like only yesterday. I can see my daughter, only 6 years old being the flower girl, all dressed in lavender, her blond hair in curls. My soon to be husband’s sister was my maid of honor, I think she was 12 or 13 at the time, still in braces. Today they are grown women with families of their own. Each with a son.
My mom and dad, now deceased, were there. My new mother-in-law and father-in-law, now divorced, were there. Time is kind for some things, some, not so much.
When I look at my husband, he is more handsome than the day I married him. His face is as familiar as a favorite book or movie. In my memories that day is so vivid. His shyness, his thrill when the ceremony was finally over. He is not a people person and the day of being in the center of attention was rough, but he did it all for me.
People will ask ‘how can you write romance? It is fake, true love doesn’t happen.” Yes, it does.
Have you found your true love? Are you still searching?
I’m thankful that Thanksgiving is only once a year — I hate turkey. I’m thankful the dinner is at my sister-in-law’s house so I don’t have to cook the turkey I don’t like.
I’m thankful for my family. We were all just at Disneyland and it was amazing to be with everyone!!!
I’m thankful for my friends. They are the best and believe in me so much that I start to believe in myself.
I’m thankful this year for all the blessings I have received. Our daughter is once again out on her own. Our grandson is happy and healthy and soooo smart. Our son is maturing and finding his way. My husband is the best man in the world and I am so thankful for every day I get to spend with him.
Jill James —– Happy Thanksgiving to everyone.