Stress is a matter of perception – how you look at your problems. When you are trying to improve your writing you stress about which class to take, what aspect of your writing needs the most work, will anyone read my story other than me? As you learn about this business you stress about the market, the trends, the formatting for submitting your manuscript, which agents are good, which are bad, and how to tell the difference.
You believe once you get a publishing contract the stress is gone – Ha! A whole new plethora of problems raise their scary heads. Can I do the edits they want? Will I like my cover? How much promotion is enough? What can I write for a second book? Will it be as good as the first book, or will I suffer the sophomore slump?
I attended an RWA chapter meeting this weekend and it was very enlightening. From a semi-new writer who worried about social networking and how to fit that into writing time to the other end of the spectrum with a writer who has 3 single titles, 3 novellas, and I think a holiday story due by June. Whoo! Tired just hearing about that schedule.
This isn’t a blog only about writing. Life and stress are a matter of perception too. You are short on cash so you work more hours, but that means that you need more childcare. You are trying to get pregnant and worry about how much do you spend before you realize you will be childless. You worry about your children’s school, their friends, the neighborhood you live in.
It all doesn’t have to be stressful, you can decide how to deal with it. How to change your perception of whatever is causing you stress.
What is a problem causing you stress? How could you see the problem in a new or different way to lower the stress in your life?